Transitions can be both exhilarating and frightening. The move, the new job, the promising new relationship are exciting but stressful. The loss of a partner, a friend or a beloved pet, an unexpected move, an unwelcome change can be frightening. Transitions can also be confusing and isolating. We may feel immobilized and succumb to the temptation to stay in bed or escape into our devices. It’s easy to feel alone when we’re faced with change and it’s often hard to ask for help. Maybe we’ve been told to face transitions with stoicism or we expect that we should handle change with grace even when we are scared.  

The “Social Slope Effect” study, conducted in 2008 by the University of Virginia, found that when subjects were asked to estimate the steepness of a hill, the perceived slope was less with a friend present than it was when viewed alone. The study illustrates the importance of social connection as a useful tool when faced with a difficult task. We don’t perceive it as daunting if shared with another person. The challenge doesn’t change, but the perception of that challenge does. Being brave is easier when we’re not alone.  

The Pastoral Care Team (PCT) at UU Asheville can help our beloved community face the challenges of transitions and changes. We can meet with congregants and accompany them on their journey of faith and healing by listening and being present during difficult times. Find us at coffee hour (we wear yellow name tags) or by email at care@uuasheville.org.

You are not alone.

Karen Dill, on behalf of the Pastoral Care Team