The Wednesday Thing, January 29

Dinner–Vespers–Great Programs! Be Sure to RSVP by 10am Tuesday Morning, January 28
Dinner is at 5:45pm
Suggested donation for dinner is $10 per person, $20 per family or pay as you are able. Vespers begins at 6:30pm. Programs begin at 7pm: Multigen Fibre Friends (SH), Odyssey (Sanctuary), UU the Vote (RE 4) Dinner is soup and salad from Loretta’s Cafe.

RSVP here: https://docs.google.com/forms/d/e/1FAIpQLSd5lx3i4Y9lGYa018ECn2x0k-pe4VIyYYtLzoY8OTVlH_YMmA/viewform?usp=sf_link

Laundry Efficiency

What’s more Efficient, a Front-Loading Washer or a Top-Loading?  A top-loading washer can consume almost 50 percent more energy and twice as much water as a front-loading washer of the same capacity.Consumer Reports has found that the most efficient washers need less than 10 gallons a load. (Mr. Green, Sierra Club) Green Tip brought to you by Earth Community Circle action group.  For more ideas: http://uuasheville.org/social-justice/green-sanctuary/

Cut Yourself Some Slack

Happy 2020, friends! I hope that your new year is off to a wonderful beginning. If, though, like me, you’re already feeling a bit overwhelmed by everything only ten days into the new year, I invite you to use this season of new beginnings and new approaches to try a maybe new-for-you approach: cut yourself some slack. Not a natural slack-cutter?  Yeah, me neither. As I type this, I’m feeling all the guilt: guilt for not finishing all the work I had scheduled for this week; guilt for this post being late due to aforementioned work; guilt for not helping my husband get my three kids to sleep, due to this post needing to get sent in ASAP. Etc. Etc.

I recently read Kate Northrup’s Do Less: A Revolutionary Approach to Time and Energy Management for Busy Moms. (Although the title specifies mothers, the book is suited for anyone in a caregiving role, and I think that’s pretty much everyone.) Anyway, the premise seems counterintuitive, doesn’t it? How can we do less right now? Besides what’s going on in our personal lives, our country’s politics are in disarray; bigotry and hate crimes continue to occur daily; and the world is literally on fire. Where do we even begin, let alone stop?

While I’m not in complete agreement with every point in Northrup’s book, she does make a number of good ones, and one of them is that we simply cannot do (and hold) everything alone. We are a species built for community, despite the fact that many aspects of our modern lives leave us in isolation.

Here’s where I bring it back to UUCA. (You were wondering, weren’t you?) We begin with each other. With our community. When things are scary or overwhelming or just too darn much despite outward appearances maybe looking like you’ve got it all together (*raises hand sheepishly), we can always begin at UUCA. Our community uplifts (and challenges) its members. Our community has created social justice action plans. Our community offers hope. And the more we engage with that community, the more supported we can feel.  

This new year, I invite you to engage in some new-to-you ways. Perhaps join the Peach March and Rally on Martin Luther King, Jr. Day, offer to lead a Wednesday Thing activity, or maybe sign up for a covenant group. Or, even simpler but perhaps more profound, make a point to connect with people you don’t know well at church coffee hour. Ask how they are and really listen. You can change the world more than you’ll ever know by these tiny seeds of kindness.

And yeah, we’ll make mistakes and missteps. We might occasionally miss deadlines (sorry, Tish!) and leave our spouses to do bedtime solo (sorry, Josh!) But if we put ourselves out there, the connections we make can relieve so much of the fretting, self-guilt-tripping, and despairing. And that can open up more time for the actual doing of the important work we all have before us.  

Nora Carpenter, Board of Trustees

Wednesday Thing January 22

Dinner–Vespers–Great Programs! Be Sure to RSVP by 10am Tuesday Morning, January 14


January 15 Dinner is at 5:45pm.
Suggested donation for dinner is $10 per person, $20 per family or pay as you are able. Vespers: Led by Elizabeth Schell, begins at 6:30pm. Programs begin at 7pm: Multigen Dance with Lisa Zahiya (SH), TED Talks with Noel Yovovich (Sanctuary) Dinner is pizza and salad from Delvecchios. RSVP for dinner here.

Exploring Integrity Through Discussions

An invitation to explore the monthly theme through a discussion for all ages. These questions are designed for family gathering – maybe during a Friday night meal, a quiet moment in the living room or before a board game night, car rides, hikes or any time you have moments when you can listen to each other.

Introducing the Activity

Family members who are readers can alternate who reads the questions. Those who are not readers are invited to share their own impromptu questions. Discussion partners might answer as thoughts come to them or take turns in a circle. 

  1. Is it more important to be right, or kind?
  2. Would you rather have friends who are always sure they are right, or who can’t make up their minds?
  3. Whom do you know who always does the right thing?
  4. On a scale from 1 to 10, how easy is it to be honest with your friends?
  5. Who taught you the most about being true to your word, or following through on what you say you’re going to do?
  6. Do you remember your first lie? How did it feel and what did it teach you?
  7. Who in your life is most “themselves”? In other words, who is least afraid to be who they are?
  8. What is one action that is always wrong? What is one action that is always right?
  9. What face do you make when you are about to do something that you know or suspect is wrong?
  10. Around whom in your life are you free to be your most complete self?
  11. How are you different from what other people think of you?
  12. What is one thing you hope is always true about you?
  13. What are the three most important pieces of you?
  14. Where is a place where all of you is accepted, where you don’t have to hide any part of yourself?

Ways to Return to the Discussion Throughout the Week 

Thoughts develop with time. Find opportunities to bring up particularly compelling questions again during the month, maybe on walks, rides home, when tucking your child in to bed, etc. If thoughts grew or changed, notice that together, how we are all evolving beings, opening ourselves to new truths and understandings as we live our lives and connect with others. 
SOURCE: Soul Matters- Soulful Home