Parents and Caregivers as Sexuality Educators (an OWL adjacent Small Group Experience)

One of the losses we are feeling this year is not being able to offer OWL for children and youth at UUCA. The OWL program administrators at both the UUA and UCC have asked that we not try to adapt the program for an online setting for a variety of reasons. We still want to be able to support parents and caregivers in their roles as the primary sexuality educators in their families, so we are offering this new program from the UUA. While this is not OWL, it is based on the same principles and values. Some of you may remember that we field tested this program for the UUA several years ago. We are delighted that it has been fully released and we are able to offer it this year.

This program invites adults to ask themselves: How can I embody my role as my child’s primary sexuality educator in a way that expresses my UU values and faith?

Of course, children pick up information and attitudes from sources beyond the home: peers, popular culture, social media, other adults. Many Unitarian Universalist children will participate in Our Whole Lives (OWL), the lifespan, holistic, values-based sexuality education program provided by the Unitarian Universalist Association and the United Church of Christ, and they may also receive sexuality education in school. However, OWL encourages, and this program aims to nurture, parents and caregivers in their role as their children’s primary sexuality educators. Trusted adults carry extraordinary power to influence their children’s attitudes and values around sexuality. Many adults struggle to wield that power with intentionality, grace, and confidence. These sessions invite parents and caregivers to find support, insight, and courage with one another.

While the small group ministry format provides a spiritually grounded space, the program’s approach to sexuality is secular and grounded in science, in tune with the OWL lifespan sexuality education programs on which it is based.

This program will be ten sessions and we will meet bi weekly via Zoom on Tuesday evenings 8:00-9:30 pm, beginning on November 17th.

Sessions and Dates

  1. Hopes and Concerns for Kids’ Sexual Health 11/17
  2. Communication: How Do We Talk about Sex? 12/1
  3. Gender Identity: Exploring Emotions around Gender 12/15
  4. Sexual Orientation: Supporting Self-Discovery 1/12
  5. Relationships: Guiding with Wisdom 1/26
  6. Sexual Health: Be a Trusted Source 2/9
  7. Decision Making: Ready, Set, Let Go! 2/23
  8. Consent: Building Healthy Boundaries 3/9
  9. Social Media: Integrity in a Changing World 3/23
  10. Pornography: It’s Not Sex Ed 4/6

To register, use this link: https://docs.google.com/forms/d/e/1FAIpQLSfj2foJd8Tk6kbDfzf8NjxxHIA9-Um5igOGSq0fVdTrm1Wnog/viewform?usp=sf_link

Please register ASAP as we are limiting this opportunity to 12 families. UUCA members will be given priority. For questions or more information, please email Kim at lrec@uuasheville.org.

The UUCA Auction Is Online?  HELP!!

cartoon figure pushing green "bid" buttonFear not.  Here’s a rundown on what you need to know.  If you’re still unclear, contact Ann McLellan, Tory Schmitz, or Margaret McAlister.  (And thank them for the enormous time they’ve devoted to this project along with Deb Holden and Marta Reese.)

How will I get a catalog?
Hmmm, “get” is a funny word here.  You can VIEW the catalog at rsabid.com using the code 28801.  Look in the upper right corner for “Check Out the Catalog!” There are various sortings of the items and search is available.  If you are desperate for a print version, here is a link to a version of the catalog as it was on October 28.  For any updates, check rsabid.com (code 28801).

Hey, I want to bid on something.  Now what?
Go back to the upper right corner of rsabid.com.  Select Sign In. On the page you land on, go to Request Account. Fill out the form to request an account.  Keep following directions as they come…..  When you place your first bid you will be required to enter a credit card number.  If you want your credit card on file early, or you don’t bid on anything in the silent auction but want to bid at the LIVE auction, call Ann McLellan at (828) 350-9005 and give her your card number over the phone. We don’t keep cards on file year to year.  Silent Auction bidding opens on November 11 at 7am.

Is there anything else I need to know about bidding during the silent auction?
There are several features you can access to automate your bidding if you’d like.  Also, when you signed up you indicated whether you want emails or texts when someone outbids you on an item.  If you don’t like the settings you chose, just go back and change them (My Account/My Settings).

What happens if I win something?
You’ll know immediately at the Live Auction.  Once the Silent Auction closes on November 18 at 8pm you will be able to look at your account (My Account/Checkout) on rsabid.com to see exactly what you won.  At that point you will be able to complete the purchase by charging to the credit card on file or by sending a check written to UUCA to Ann McLellan.  Once we receive your payment, we’ll send you a certificate via email that either IS the won item (such as a gift certificate) or tells you how to claim it.  If you’ve won a “thing,” you and the item donor will negotiate the exchange.

How will I get invited to the LIVE Zoom AUCTION?
If you get our emails, you’ll get an email invitation.  In order to get the Zoom link you will have to register through the invitation.  That link is not shareable so don’t forward it.

How are we going to have a dinner and drinks at the Auction?
Glad you asked.  Mariposa’s (Maria’s) Food Truck will be at UUCA in the late afternoon of LIVE Zoom Auction Day (November 14) so that you can pick up items you have pre-ordered through the Auction Catalog.  You will be assigned a pickup time to guarantee a safe and timely pick up.  Once you get your food, you can eat it when you get home or save it to re-heat and eat “at” the auction.

And did we say “drinks?”  Any time from now until LIVE Zoom Auction Day (November 14), you can visit Metro Wines on Charlotte Street to purchase your special UU Auction cocktail aperitif or special “UUCA Auction Wines” selected and discounted just for us!  Lillet Blanc aperitif will come with a choice of Beatles-themed cocktail recipes.  The wine will be ready to drink 😊.  Sip while you trip with the Beatles at the LIVE Zoom Auction!  If you do buy something from Metro Wines, call (828) 575-9525 from your car for pickup (it’s better to order ahead but you can order from the parking lot if you need to).

Will the LIVE Zoom Auction be family-friendly?
We’re sure trying for that.  Some of the entertainments sprinkled throughout will definitely be kid-friendly, but as we’ve all learned, full kid-attention on Zoom is not a thing.  It’s barely a thing with adults.  That’s why we’re trying to keep the whole thing to about an hour or a little more.

Have any other questions?
Contact Ann McLellan, Tory Schmitz, or Margaret McAlister.

Linda Topp, Director of Administration